A lot of sage advice will say focus on what you want to achieve rather than what you want to avoid. This book does the opposite and just highlights what Amy Morin, the psychologist, advises her patients and herself, after a pretty harsh turn of events in her life, to do.
01. Give up self pity. It’s A vicious circle, energy draining and unattractive
02. Don’t Give away your power by harbouring feelings of anger and resentment to others.
03. Don’t shy away from change. Step out of your comfort zone.
04. Don’t waste time on things you can not control. The Stoicism view of life.
05. Don’t try and please everyone all the time.
06. Don’t fear taking calculated risks
07. Don’t dwell on the past.
08. Don’t repeatedly make the same mistakes.
09. Dont resent the peoples success.
10. Don’t give up after the first failure.
11. Don’t fear alone time. Embrace solitude.
12. Don’t go around feeling that the world owes you living, or anything for that fact
13. Don’t expect immediate results.
The biggest thing I learnt from this book was to try and make some time for yourself, by yourself. Some solitude away from the rest of the world and some time to just chill out – even when it seems almost uncomfortable to do so? And when you’re working towards a big project don’t expect to achieve the result in 5 mins. It takes time too achieve something that is great.